Rejection = Overrated
When it comes to applying for jobs, the fear of rejection is the #1 reason why people hesitate to be more proactive.
“What if they never contact me? What if I interview and they don’t like me? What if all of this ends up being a waste of time? I’m not qualified, so I’ll probably be rejected anyways.”
The problem with this mindset is that you are leaving your employment status in the hands of lady luck and other people who are not invested in your success. This is a mindset that will only set you up for more failure and making you more miserable, so I implore you to stop this madness.
How does one overcome this innate fear that seems to be encoded into our genetics?
Repeat after me: Rejection is overrated.
Sound crazy? Well hear me out.
#1. When people apply for a job, rejection is generally defined as the failure to obtain the desired position.
To all of you who still think this, wipe this notion out of your head. There are so many reasons why you don’t get a position that there is no reason to even begin getting dejected because you didn’t get the position. Here are a few common scenarios that people encounter:
A) You receive zero communication from the company.
This should mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to you. First of all, there are a million reasons why you haven’t been contacted. Maybe they never received your application, maybe the HR recruiter responsible for reading your resume never got around to your application, maybe they already had someone in mind, maybe…
Do you get my point? The fact that the company never responded to your application should not even bother you in the slightest.
B) You were contacted, but you were never referred for an interview.
Just like Situation A, there are a number of reasons why this could be the case. Some companies contact applicants back as a formality, but in the end they hire whomever they had in mind instead of giving all candidates equal opportunity. I’m not saying it’s necessarily fair, but it’s something that’s not going to ever change. Again, this is by no means a reflection on you, so don’t give this situation a second thought either.
C) Contacted, had an interview, but didn’t get the job.
This is the situation where people tend to have the most angst. After all, you had a chance to interview with your employer and prove that you were the best candidate for the position. In fact, doesn’t this situation mean that you beat out hundreds of interested applicants who were also interested in this position?
Bottom line: Unless you received detailed feedback (like I did) about your shortcomings and why you weren’t selected, you should still be holding your head up high when you don’t get the job. Again, I must reiterate the fact that there are so many variables involved in how companies hire employees that any notion that you have control over the process is only going to do you more harm than good.
Remember, this is the key that will not only serve you well in your quest for your dream job (or any job); but in many other aspects of your life as well. So spend this week to grasp this concept so that you are ready for next week’s post on how to maximize your time and energy when applying for jobs.
For those who are wondering what happened to my 500 word count limit, I’ll be increasing the maximum word count to 800 in order to pack in the more content for your reading pleasure and usage! Hope you enjoy!